Posted on: July 1, 2009 | By Maigal
During the innocent days of my youth I thought I was pretty damn hot. I was skinny, had vibrant skin and had an innocent look that any guy — young or old — would love to get his hands on. My girlfriends and I would go out every Thursday to the Tao Groove for Happy Hour. We would be welcomed with free drinks, free dinners, and free rides home. Basically, everything was pretty much handed to us for FREE. We would meet guys with little effort on our part. There were just too many guys out there for me to choose from. If one didn’t work out, there was always someone else waiting in the wings. I treated men like a pair of fashionable jeans. One season I’m into a pair of straight legs, the next a pair of bell-bottoms.
Now fast forward 10 years. Do I still think I’m a hot piece of ass? Probably not. I now have to compete against all of these younger girls running around with their 2 inch skirts and 4 inch heels, looking a lot finer than myself. I would now classify myself as “do-able”. What does “do-able” really mean? Do-able is when a guy thinks you are decent looking enough to sleep with without shame and that you are not butt ugly. Even though I still see myself as “do-able”, the days of the FREE drinks are gone. There’s no such thing as FREEBIES anymore. This isn’t all so unfortunate though. Even when I was getting all of these freebies, it came with a price. Guys were always expecting things from me, things I was reluctant to do. Don’t you just hate it when you’re out with a guy who pays for dinner and drinks and at the end of the date expects something out of you??? I always wanted to scream at them, “Your $100 will not get shit from me. Don’t even think about it.”
So what’s the main reason I’m not getting many free drinks these days? Probably because I’m not as sellable anymore. One of my guy friend told me that women depreciate with age, that our best days are in our 20′s. Maybe that’s true, but now that I am older, I’m also more selective about the men I go after. Quality and substance have replaced looks and cash. But maybe its not all about my age or looks. I think guys these days are just a whole lot cheaper than back in 2002. With this recent financial meltdown I guess everyone is tightening up their wallets. This is unfortunate because there is no bigger turn-off than a Cheap Man. This will be a subject to be discussed on a future blog. Anyway, for the first time in a while, I’m alone in the guy department. Those guys that used to line up for my affection are nowhere to be found. Most of them are either married or dating someone else. You know the saying: one person’s trash is another person’s treasure. Now that I am a bit older and wiser I realize that I don’t need a bunch of guys I’m not even interested in chasing after me. I’m secure enough in my own skin to go at it on my own.
Looking back, my younger days were all about fun and play. I was clueless about life. Now that I am older, I know what I really want in life. More importantly, I am comfortable with who I am and where I am in life. I guess this is just another part of growing up.