Response to, Why Asian Women Date White Guys (from an Asian male perspective)

Posted on: August 4, 2009 | By Maiguy

asian-dating-white-interracial-dating-couple First off, lets approach any response or comments to Maigal’s article with some rational thought. As an Asian male, the one thing I pride myself on is being able to handle almost any situation with calm and rationale thought. This is what separates us from the other sex. Now fellas, I’m sure a lot of you were a bit offended by some of the comments and stereotypes from the article. I was offended myself, but after some careful thought, found that some of the points were true, others a bit off.

On the penis size issue, this is definitely an overused stereotype. Maybe it’s true maybe it’s not. I can’t speak for everyone, but having seen a few penises in my day (lockers rooms, gyms, NOT in my room), I can honestly say that size and shape varies across the board for all men, including race. Although I have seen some porn’s with black guys who had penises that could have passed for tree limbs. I don’t really know what was going on there, all I know is those things were so big that they would have torn most women in two. I know what I’ve got going on down there, and it’s always been sufficient to get the job done. Seriously though, the penis size is really not a big deal and in reality most women don’t care that much. Even if it is ridiculously small, just remember, not the size of the boat that matters, just the motion of the ocean. I think most women would prefer a big wallet to a big penis anyway, just my personal thought on the matter.

Height. I think any woman will tell you she wants her man to be at least taller than herself. That means that for those 6 ft. tall models out there, there are only a handful of men that will fit that mode. Luckily for Asian men, most Asian women are fairly small and petite. So as long as you find a girl slightly smaller than yourself, you’re golden. If you’re 5’7”, there are literally millions of women out there who are available to you, as most women are around 5’4”. The only thing separating some of the smaller men from larger men is perceived confidence. One of the biggest players I’ve ever met, a friend of mine from Chicago was literally 5’5” on a good day, but had the charisma and confidence of a 7 footer. I’ve seen it with my own eyes that numerous women, when met by an interesting and confident man did not care at ALL about height. I think height means very little.

Asian men are more selective of Asian women. I think this is pretty true. If you are an Asian male, there are a lot of beautiful Asian women out there to choose from. This is a fact of life. And especially in a place like New York, there just seems to be more women than men. I think there are two types of Asian women that date white guys.

Asian women who grew up in a predominately white culture, mostly white friends and a school with mostly white people, and honestly just feel more comfortable dating white guys. These girls will probably find white guys more attractive as that is all they are used to being around.
Asian girls who really don’t get a lot of attention from Asian males. For numerous reasons, they appear unattractive to a great segment of the Asian male population and tend not to get a lot of attention. For this segment of girls, dating white is probably the preferred and perhaps only choice out there. I know a lot of Asian girls who would like to eventually marry an Asian guy but still date white guys because many Asian men simply don’t ask them out.

I will admit this is a fairly generalized list. Things are never so black and white. I know Asian women who have generally dated Asian men but for whatever reason met interesting men who happened to be white, and are now happy and in love. I have personally dated white women, and would love to date a beautiful black or Latin woman. Who wouldn’t? Beyonce and Shakira anyone . . . . But I will admit, I much prefer Asian women. The reason is comfort and cultural similarities. There are certain things in life that are more easily understood and shared when done within the same race. Anyone who has attended a Bar Mitzvah or Muslim wedding understands this concept. I think in general, most Asian women do prefer Asian men. There are some that do not, and more power to them. Who wouldn’t want to experience something different in life?

On a side note, if you are an Asian woman interested in dating a white guy, please don’t find some really ugly, douchy kind of white guy that is only dating ethnic because he can’t get good looking white girls. I find this epidemic a lot in NY, and it is very annoying. Please try to date a good looking, nice and/or cool white guy if possible. When I walk around the city and see cute Japanese girls on the arms of complete douche bag, nerdy white guys that probably never had their penises touched in highschool, I want to vomit in my mouth.

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25 Responses to “Response to, Why Asian Women Date White Guys (from an Asian male perspective)”

Asian Sensation
August 5th, 2009 @ 9:11 am

The Asian girls that date white men are generally too ugly on the outside and inside to find themselves a real Asian guy. White guys have no clue what a good looking Asian girl is and often you will see an attractive White guy with an ugly Asian chick.

Am I offended that an Asian girl dates a WHite guy? Only if she’s good looking. BUt that’s rare as often it’s the ugly ones that date outside their race because no one within their race will date them! Take a look at what American TV thinks is a good looking Asian girl… blah. They can have them!
MA Shumin
August 5th, 2009 @ 9:14 am

>> a friend of mine from Chicago was literally 5’5” on a good day, but had the charisma and confidence of a 7 footer. numerous women, when met by an interesting and confident man did not care at ALL about height. I think height means very little.

I concur
Stella
August 5th, 2009 @ 9:20 am

LOL i find myself agreeing with majority of your theories. the Side note was funny though i haven’t really seen that myself. as for asian men are more selective of asian women i fall into that category. I wouldn’t mind dating asian men however none of them really ask me out maybe because i don’t look like most skinny asian girls but i’m not fat either. So i’ve given up on that plus i grew up in a predominantly caucasian and latino community thats just who i’m drawn to. So to a make a long story short i agree with you on that theory 100%
Stella
August 5th, 2009 @ 9:22 am

i agree with asian sensation on this…Take a look at what American TV thinks is a good looking Asian girl
karen
August 5th, 2009 @ 10:15 am

I dated a white guy before. He has nice blue eyes and dirty blonde hair. I started dating him not because he is white. I like his personality, his smarts and of course his good looks. And no, I’m not an ugly Chinese girl that can only get white guys. I’m still wanted by my Asian peeps. lol
EZ
August 5th, 2009 @ 11:14 am

Two very interesting article…keep up the good work and that is what marks the success of your site! In my opinion, quality Asian guys are rare and for those who’s dating one you definitely have the bragging right. And for Asian girls out there with higher standards but unlucky to find that perfect Asian guy will most likely drawn to average White guys because their physical appearance. By saying this, I do not include those interracial couples who already developed their chemistry in HS or college. All in all, we are all pink inside so what does it matter.
LN
August 5th, 2009 @ 11:29 am

“One of the biggest players I’ve ever met, a friend of mine from Chicago was literally 5’5” on a good day, but had the charisma and confidence of a 7 footer. I’ve seen it with my own eyes that numerous women, when met by an interesting and confident man did not care at ALL about height. I think height means very little.”

I definitely agree with this. Confidence (not narcissism or aggression) can overcome most challenges. Confidence is sexy.
Anna
August 5th, 2009 @ 12:13 pm

It’s the “buzz” that keeps the people coming back. Keep making the “buzz”.

Scratch out the “asian” part. Quality guys are hard to find, period. BUT, your “quality guy” might not be the same as what I describe as my “quality guy”, because Im sure we all look for different qualities. So with that said, there’s someone out there for everyone, you just have to look.

I think with the height thing.. ideally, a girl wants a guy to be 6 inches taller than themselves, cus the guy will still be taller when we have our 3/4″ heels on.
Im only a petite 5’2. So my ideal would be 5’8-5’11″. I actually turn down a guy once because he’s 6’2″. Yea…I guess we girls can be picky!!haha.
Funny Asian
August 5th, 2009 @ 12:36 pm

The problem with Asian guys is that they are like the writer of this article: boring and not very witty nor funny. You should of gotten a more witty and humorous Asian guy to post and represent! THere is NOTHING in this article that is new or insightful at all. Same stupid stereotypes over and over.

Asian girls don’t want to date Asian guys because they don’t like to get beat up. Or they don’t want to be a one of 3 concubines. Or maybe they don’t like the smell of durian fruit in their home. Or they don’t like having 25 flip flops outside of their home. Or they don’t like buckteeth. Or they don’t like having to go to Asian parties before 9pm to get in for free before the guestlist ends…
Pretty Asian Girl
August 5th, 2009 @ 12:44 pm

Hey, I actually date a pretty awesome Asian guy, but then again I’m a pretty good-looking Asian girl…. so I don’t have to date outside my race.
Liz
August 5th, 2009 @ 12:46 pm

I wouldn’t date the author of this article either. I didn’t even now he was Asian. I just found him to be a geek. He talks so much about confidence but his article lacks that. Just be confident in yourself and stop hating. There is but a small percentage of Asian girls dating outside of their race. BUt the same applies to any ethnicity. Maybe that’s why Asian girls are repulsed by guys like the author. Maybe these girls just find white guys more attractive and it is nothing personal?!
Tyrone
August 5th, 2009 @ 12:51 pm

I like Asian chicks. In the dark we are all the same color. But in the daytime I look like night…
Anna
August 5th, 2009 @ 3:17 pm

Haha I would date the writer if I was single. I love geeks!!They always seems to know everything, so intriguing. Don’t you seee the trend?? The geeks always get the pretty girls!! AND they are the ones with the fat wallet to pay for the mortgages down the road. So why not?? Computer geeks, engineering geeks, bio-medic geeks..brains= sexy!! A handsome-well rounded geek, EVEN Better!!! A Witty guy?? I say only good for one night stand Bar pickups. They’re just all talk. NOT a keeper.
karen
August 5th, 2009 @ 3:41 pm

I love geeks too. If you are 5’10, 165 pounds, and decent looking geeks who loves to chat online, know php, asp, html, and javascript. Please Contact me.
Maiguy
August 5th, 2009 @ 6:32 pm

I don’t usually like to take part in online bashing, find it pretty lame. but feel its necessary to respond to some of the haters. Funny Asian, seems you’re the funniest and wittiest guy in the room. Why don’t you write up your own insightful article on the matter above, and send it into [email protected]. We’ll post it for everyone to read. Apparently we’ll be treated to the most insightful and comical piece of material the web has ever seen. Give it a try.

Liz – geek, really? what gave you that impression? with all honesty, geek is never something that anyone has ever called me before and I can assure you, lacking confidence I do not. I’m not so sure you wouldn’t date me. I’d like to think i’m quite the catch. Also, I didn’t see alot of hating going on in my article. I was trying to take a balanced view on the topic. Not sure what you’d be repulsed about, I was pretty fair on the subject and even suggested more power to Asian woman that want to explore and meet great guys that are white or any other ethnicity. you really seem fired up about it though. My suggestion to you: take a breather, break into that tub of Ben & Jerry’s, cuddle up next to that cat/dog of yours and try to calm down.
Funny Looking Asian
August 5th, 2009 @ 7:21 pm

I think you are confusing GEEK for NERD. Geeks are the ones that crack the code to your house alarm to go smell your undies. Nerds are the smart ones that are the hidden gems that you should date. There is a huge, BIG difference (like penis sizes between Mandigo the Black guy and NoHungLo the Asian guy).

And you think Wit is overrated? Wait until you spend days and nights alone with that dry boring geek. Those that say humor is not for keepers are the ones that will end up cheating on the geek with the witty guy at work…
DieselAzn
August 5th, 2009 @ 7:30 pm

Very good points MaiGuy. I’d like to add to your perspective by posting the other side of things from the Asian male point of view. I posted this comment on MaiGal’s article, thought its relevant here too:

Why Asian guys prefer & date White girls – by DieselAzn

Look at the picture at the top of (MaiGal’s) article.
1. She’s as white as a ghost. Staring at her skin for more than 5 seconds, my eyes start to go blind.
2. Look at her body. Probably weighs 85 lbs. She’s a skeleton with skin, no curves, no tone, nothing. If the wind goes above 10mph she’s liable to be carried away into the next town. Put some meat on those bones!!!
3. Look at her breasts. OH wait….there aren’t any. Woops, my bad. And I’m sure her ass matches what’s up top….if you like doggystyle, might as well hump 2 slices of bread, there’s more cushion for the pushin.

Now, I’m not saying all Asian girls have the bodies of little boys and the complexion of Casper the friendly ghost..I’ve had 1 or 2 Asian exes that have at least a handful of sweater puppets to hang onto and decent buns to embrace. but you’d have to do a treasure hunt through the amazon forest to find an Asian girl with the body of a beautiful, healthy Caucasian woman (e.g. – Megan Fox, Jessica Alba, Angelina Jolie, etc. etc.). And its not just Caucasian women…the majority of Latina and Black women also happen to be taller, curvier, with bigger breasts and firmer, rounder buttocks. Yum Yum.

Now let’s talk about personality. Many to most Asian girls who grew up in traditional Asian families….are very conservative, reserved, quiet….pretty much not much of a personality at all until you really get to know them over a period of time, and even then it may be like pulling teeth with some girls. On the other hand, most white/ latina/ black girls that I’ve come across are not afraid to speak their minds when it is appropriate to do so (even at times when its not), are more out-going and fun-loving….and are not afraid to let loose and enjoy the moment.

This is not meant to bash on all Asian women….but I definitely feel the need to address things from the Asian guy’s perspective. Maigal says that being an Asian woman definitely has its advantages and you are desired by all types of men of all races. She does have a point to some extent….but an ugly girl is an ugly girl and probably won’t be desired by most men, and race has nothing to do with it. It’s definitely easier to date outside the race as an Asian woman than if you are an Asian male. Although you do see the occasional Asian man/ White woman couple…it definitely isn’t as prevalent, by far, as vice versa. Many caucasian females just aren’t that open-minded yet. I yearn for the day when you see just as many Asian guys dating white women as you see Asian girls dating white men. I love beautiful women of all races and ethnicities….the most important thing is chemistry..

A little bit of background: I’m an ABC guy (American Born Chinese) born and raised in NYC. I’ve dated White, Asian and Latina women. My first ever girlfriend that “made me a man” was white. She was in love with me to the point of obsession…unfortunately I had to let her go cuz she turned out to be a bit ‘psycho’ lol…but obviously I was able to satisfy her ‘needs’ if you will. I’m not saying I’m Matt Flannery (see MaiGal’s article comments) with an 8″ package (which btw is most likely bullshit…he probably has a 3 incher and has to make himself feel better by lying), but I definitely do not fall into that stereotype of skinny, nerdy small-packaged Asian…I’ve got very big light-colored eyes, hit the gym regularly (can benchpress 300lbs.) and got more than ample tools to satisfy.

Damn, I should write my own blog….LOL.
Maiguy
August 5th, 2009 @ 11:59 pm

DieselAzn, agree with almost all of your points. good stuff. and yes, you should consider writing your own blog.
Tom
August 6th, 2009 @ 1:07 am

Maigal = a clear self hating, White worshiping, Uncle Tom Asian.

Basically, imagine MICHELLE MALKIN.

These kinds internalize that White looks are better, completely pander to Whites, say anything including bash and say self-racist things, and likely laugh along to racist Asian jokes.
Joe
August 6th, 2009 @ 7:26 pm

I also agree with DieselAzn. And would like to add some more about Asian females.
1. If you don’t buy me LV or Gucci – you are poor or cheap.
2. If you don’t have a BMW or Mercedes – you are poor.
3. If you don’t have a condo or house – you are poor.
4. If you don’t spend 200-500 dollars on a date – you are cheap or poor
5. If you don’t take me on vacations – you are cheap or poor.
Alvin Lin
August 7th, 2009 @ 3:01 am

#18- Stop hiding, Alvin.
Patrick Lew
August 7th, 2009 @ 10:50 am

Great site, love it.
- Patrick Lew
Alvin Lin
August 7th, 2009 @ 11:39 am

Me too!
Patrick Lew
August 7th, 2009 @ 12:27 pm

I love Michelle Malkin
Alvin Lin Jintzu
August 7th, 2009 @ 10:22 pm

This is the real ALvin Lin. Hello! Maiguy (HA! I wish he was mine) really needs to stop talking about stupid fishes. You girlie girls got nothing on sweet Asian beefcake like me. Yeah, I’m naughty! You FISHES got nothing on me!