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Where To Meet Quality Women?

Posted on: August 31, 2009 | By Maiguy

quality womenThis question gets asked by friends and acquaintances all the time, “where do I go to meet a quality girl?”  I think I speak for a lot of guys out there when I say it gets old just trying to meet women at bars and clubs. The scene is pretty repetitive and clubs tend to attract a certain type of girl, namely superficial and/or wild girls. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, the fact of the matter is a lot of really beautiful women are out at clubs because they want to be seen and have a good time with their friends. But to be honest, your chances of finding a nice and quality girl at one of these places are pretty slim. The environment there just doesn’t lend itself to finding a girlfriend. The music’s loud, lights are dark, you’re both intoxicated and you’re surrounded by a room full of other horny drunk dudes. In the eyes of any potential girl you’ll meet, she’ll probably think of you as just another one of these horny drunk guys. If you do happen to run into a good looking girl out at night and decide you’re going to give it a shot and try to talk her up, keep in mind that she has most likely been hit on at least a dozen times already and is probably not interested in hearing anything out of your mouth. Women are naturally on their defensive at a club. My advice to you, expand your realm of interaction with women by branching out and putting yourself in situations to meet women that is non-threatening to them and doesn’t involve alcohol. Minus the alcohol your judgment will be better and you’ll probably do a better job of weeding out those disgusting girls that only look good because you’re shit faced at the bar. Here are my suggestions to meet quality women in the city.

  1. Take up dance lessons. This sounds gay, but trust me, attend any salsa, meringue or hip-hop dance class and you will be amazed to find that there are hardly any guys. Most guys are too embarrassed or afraid to attend. Don’t be one of those guys. I would suggest Latin Salsa as this form of dance involves a lot of close intimate contact with your partner and every class I’ve been to rotate dancers so you basically get a close meeting with every girl there.
  2. Take up a new hobby (one that you are interested in). Invest a little time to do that class or activity you’ve always meant to do. Things like cooking, photography, painting, or surf lessons. Anything that involves womanly activities like cooking and painting will attract a lot of available women. Make sure that it involves an activity you’re actually interested in; I mean if you’re paying money to learn something new and meet women, you may as well actually be interested in it.
  3. Join a club. Get involved with some clubs and take an active role within them. You’ll meet a lot of cool people that you may not get a chance to meet normally. Plus taking part in a club lets other women get to meet and know you better in a really non-threatening environment since you guys are both now a part of something together.
  4. Attend networking/informational business meetings. These types of networking events are a great place to meet quality women. I mean, if a girl is working and attending a business networking event she probably has a good head on her shoulders. Plus, I love when women dress business formal, I think it looks pretty sexy.  You can check out for networking events.
  5. Join a food group. Sign up for a meeting group like and check out their food groups. These are basically groups of people in the city who like to meet up a few times a month and check out new restaurants in the city. If you love to eat as much as I do then this is a great choice to not only check out new restaurants but basically go on several dates with a group of women without having to pay for them.
  6. Get physical. Go on hiking excursions. A friend of mine is a guide for a local hiking company. Basically, for like $20-50 they pick you up in the city and take a van full of people outside the city on a nature hike. From what I’ve been told the makeup of these groups are on average 75% women. You will basically be one of the few guys out there and you will have a lot of one on one time to meet some nice girls. They even have singles excursions. Warning on these hikes: they tend to attract a lot of outdoor vegan type of women. If that’s your thing, definitely check out a hike.

From what you can see, the key is to expand the sphere of women that you come into contact with. You just gotta get out there and get put yourself in as many situations to meet women as possible. Also, if you actually do start getting involved in these activities you’ll be a lot more interesting and have a lot more to talk about to any woman you meet. I think checking out these activities will really up your chances of finding a nice girl to date. Then again, if staying single is what you’re looking for, I’m sure I’ll be seeing you out at the bars/clubs.

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19 Responses to “Where To Meet Quality Women?”

  1. Stephanie
    August 31st, 2009 @ 9:29 am

    You’re absolutely right about the whole bar/club scene; it’s such a meat market. I always find myself on the defensive until they start buying me drinks (bad Steph!). It’s always on the back of my mind whenever I’m approached by a guy in such situations that they’re looking to get in your pants (even if you do tell them you’re a lesbian…)

    Anyway, good ideas on broadening your scope of social interactions. Good stuff.

    P.S. Idea for new article: rules to go by when going to a bar/club. Like, use the buddy system (don’t ditch your buddies!), keep a drink limit, know when to not accept a drink from a stranger, etc.

  2. Maigal
    August 31st, 2009 @ 9:53 am

    Steph, Knowing that you are a lesbian will only make you more attractive in their eyes. Guys love a challenge. Thanks for the new idea for my blog.

  3. Lily
    August 31st, 2009 @ 10:20 am

    Guys should just come up to us and introduce themselves, either in the subways, gyms or even the supermarkets. If they’re sincere and cute at their approach, it will work.

  4. heh
    August 31st, 2009 @ 10:54 am

    I was recently asked to dance by a random guy at a social networking event and he must’ve had dance lessons because he was twirling me around and all that jazz. A great natural high.

  5. Eva M
    August 31st, 2009 @ 11:23 am

    How about meeting a girl on the train. hehe.. Put out a smile is a good sign or offer them your seat on the train. Be a gentleman.

  6. Dan W
    August 31st, 2009 @ 11:25 am

    Anyone have any luck in the supermarket, bookstore, or gym? I’ve heard about those.

  7. Lily M
    August 31st, 2009 @ 11:48 am

    don’t u guys think my comment is true?

    i think a lot of intelligent guys that knows how to speak have ( howtroy) that’s how they meet their future wives…..just random meeting…like in their buiding, going up the elevators….just speak up. don’t be a dummy.

  8. Eva
    August 31st, 2009 @ 11:49 am

    Yes, Lily M.. I think so too.. if you’re not shy to talk and knows how to talk and is a gentleman. It shouldn’t be hard to talk to a girl at any place.

  9. SW
    August 31st, 2009 @ 12:42 pm

    I agreed. If a guy is brave enough to open their mouth and talk to me in a gentleman manner, I will give them the time and reply back nicely. And if the convo is going good, it can turn into something good too…hehe. I have my share of personal encounters of such before and it was one pleassant experience. Hey, you just never know.

    btw, Eva M, the train can work too…lol

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  11. Dave
    August 31st, 2009 @ 6:24 pm

    yah a guy that gets dates off a subway or elevator IMO is a pickup artist…caveat emptor…

  12. Ross
    September 1st, 2009 @ 1:07 am

    Everything always starts with a smile but its not really easy as it seems.Women nowadays have these misconceptions that when a guy approaches them,he is only after that “one” thing.They should loosen up a bit and get to know the person and see if there’s a sincerity in there.

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  14. Alvin Lin
    September 1st, 2009 @ 12:56 pm

    This post is offensive and anti-Asian!

  15. Ross
    September 1st, 2009 @ 10:52 pm

    The topic was “where to meet quality women”.wheres the anti-asian on that part?hmm

  16. Larry
    September 2nd, 2009 @ 12:42 am

    Yup – I went up to girls on trains, even went out with a hottie… turns out she was like 12 years younger than me. But she was so nice. But it’s all about timing if on a train, since there’s only so much time… for me, 45 seconds.

  17. Athena
    September 3rd, 2009 @ 1:51 pm

    Seriously, I got asked by my guy friends all the time! They were all looking at the wrong places, aka, clubs!

  18. Jayson
    September 4th, 2009 @ 1:56 pm

    Great tip ideas. I do have to say though; it’s hard to approach women, but you have to be sincere and be yourself. If the woman doesn’t respond with your smile; go to someone else. Not every women will like you.

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