There are many great qualities that most black men have.  First, most black men have chiseled athletic bodies with a really tight ass.  Look at R&B artists like Usher and Tyrese, their bodies are to die for. Second, most of them can move like Michael Jackson on the dance floor.  Those brothers got sleek moves and rhythm. Third, most of them are really funny.  I’ll be the first to admit, I love black jokes, especially the racist ones. So, with all these great qualities of black men, why am I not dating them? Here are my top 3 reasons.

1. The divorce rate and single families are a lot higher in black couples than Asian couples. According to 2005-2007 American Community Survey 3-Year Estimates, only 30.9% of black couples are married compared to 59.7% of Asian couples.  Most of my black friends are either divorced or single moms.  My interpretation of the statistics, it doesn’t seem that black men can settle.    Since I grew up in a tight family with two parents, I think dating an Asian man might be the safer bet.
2. Not economical  – My two black roommates in college used to compliment my hair.   They told me that if they had my hair, then they wouldn’t need to spend 5-7 hours at the salon to get their hair relaxed and braided.  Not only that, it cost more than $200 to get their hair braided.  Unless I am married someone rich, I can’t afford my kids to have nice hair.  I’m sorry to say this but if I have kids with a black man, their hair might not have that smooth texture compared to Asian hair.  In this economy, I can’t afford to take my daughter out to get her hair relaxed or braided every 2 weeks.  If she wants Beyonce’s hair, it’ll be out of the question.
3. Although we have a black president, racism still exist. Being an Asian and a woman, I already feel like a minority.  If I were to have a relationship with a black man, it would only add a greater burden to the relationship.  I know love can conquer it all but I’d rather take the easy way out.

I’m not saying I would never date a black man because if Derek Jeter asks me out, I wouldn’t say no.  I believe when you truly love someone, race shouldn’t be an issue. Whether he is black, white or yellow, we are still considered one race which is human.

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