Hello people,
Maigal is still alive. I have been working non-stop for the last few months in my real estate business that I just don’t have the energy or time to write anything. I promise I will write something juicy soon. Anyhow, on my walk home after an exhausting day at work, I was listening to Pandora, this song came up called “A thousand years” by Christina Perri. It’s such a beautiful song that makes me want to fall in love again. I definately would play this song on my wedding day if I ever get so lucky to marry the man of my dreams.

xoxo,
Maigal

Picture credit goes to jonnybowdenblog.com

According to Patti Stanger from Millionaire Matchmaker, a guy asking you out for coffee is cheap, lunch is an interview, dinner is romance. Which one are you?

Heart-broken? Getting a divorce? Just broke up? Angry?  Make yourself feel better by watching this video by Queenie Chan.  Just remember, you don’t need an A$$ to be part of your life.  Life is just too short to be bitter…. right???  As much as I want to write about the “gum disease” guy who broke my heart, I simply don’t have the time or energy for that.

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Let me start off by saying this to my fellow Asian men, particularly those of you that have spent a good part of your life here in the U.S.  If you do not remotely feel any sort of pride or joy in the success story of Jeremy Lin, I don’t think you can really be considered an Asian man.  Sorry.  I can pretty much sum it up like this: for all the William Hungs and countless other Asians that have reinforced the negative Asian male stereotypes, Lin is helping people forget all that negativity.  One pass, slam dunk and game-winning 3 pointer at a time.

First let me tell you a bit about my own personal experiences, which I’m sure is not uncommon among other Asian American men that were raised here in the U.S.  Ever since grade school I had to deal with racism.  Whether it was people calling me silly names, or making up taunts that they thought sounded like Chinese (e.g. – ching chong, ding dong, etc.).  Or the time when I was a skinny little freshman in high school when a group of thugs came up to me and one of them slapped me and said “Hey China-man….why don’t you show me some Bruce Lee now??”.   Even as an adult, I’ve had a number of altercations which were caused by a non-Asian person shouting some derogatory racist slur at me for no reason other than my ethnicity, or even physically confronting me because of the color of my skin.  You would think that grown adults would learn to get past these unmerited childish preconceived notions.  Ignorance still exists in our society, there is no doubt about that.

Which is what makes Mr. Lin’s success so “Lincredible”, if you will.  He is helping to diminish the anti-Asian ignorance that exists in our society to some extent.  His #17 basketball jersey is the best selling NBA jersey in the world right now, with people of all races and colors snatching it up.  Spike Lee changed his Landry Fields jersey that he’s been wearing to every Knicks game since last season to Jeremy Lin’s #4 Harvard jersey.  Yes, there are many haters out there – people who are jealous or feel very negatively towards the ascent of Lin in the sports world.  Sometimes people tend to question or criticize that which they are not accustomed to, or simply do not comprehend.  One of the most notable is champion boxer Floyd Mayweather, who tweeted the following: “Jeremy Lin is a good player but all the hype is because he’s Asian. Black players do what he does every night and don’t get the same praise.”  Let me put this in perspective.  At the time of Mayweather’s tweet, Jeremy Lin scored 136 pts in 5 career starts.  More than ANYONE in the history of the NBA.  And that transcends race.  Sorry Floyd, Black players do NOT do what Lin has done on a nightly basis.  The vast majority of tweets and responses to Mayweather’s claim were overwhelmingly in support of Jeremy Lin’s accomplishments, and critical of Mayweather’s insulting comment.  Even if the current Jeremy Lin phenomenon doesn’t change a person’s negative perception or assumptions of Asian people, at least it is raising educational discussions on the topic and shedding some positive light in our direction.  And that is definitely a good thing.

No one has ever broken the Asian color barrier like JLin is doing right now.  Lin has been on the cover of Sports Illustrated magazine two weeks in a row.  You can’t watch ESPN for 5 minutes without seeing a story about Jeremy Lin.  Yes, Michael Chang did make a name for himself in the late 80’s and early 90’s.  He won the 1989 French Open at 17 and remains the youngest man to win a Grand Slam tennis title.  A pretty impressive feat.

Tennis, however, is not as mainstream a sport as basketball.  Also, tennis is a solo sport.  Basketball is a sport that stresses teamwork, working well with others, as well as individual performance.  Jeremy Lin is competing in a sport that is dominated by big Black athletes, and he is thriving.  Not even Yao Ming (who was brought over from China and already a star before he got here) made the impact that Lin is making right now.  JLin was born and raised here, speaks perfect English, and he graduated from Harvard.  He was not drafted by a single NBA team.  When he finally got into the NBA, he played minuscule minutes and was cut from every team, the last guy on the bench. Yada yada yada, we’ve all heard about his underdog story a million times by now.  He was treated as the typical Asian guy, pushed to the side and forgotten about. The typical invisible Asian man.  That is until he was finally given a chance by coach Mike D’Antoni and an injury-ridden NY Knicks.  And boy are the Knicks, the NBA, the USA, and the world glad that he was given the opportunity and absolutely maximizing it.  Even beyond any of our wildest dreams.  The NY Knicks are suddenly relevant again with the biggest star in the NBA at the moment as captain of the ship.  And it will be interesting, to say the least, to see where the journey leads while the world is watching.  What also makes Lin such a likeable sports figure is his humility.  Even with all his success thus far and all the media attention, praise, etc., he is not arrogant at all or accepting of all the credit like some athletes (ahem…Lebron).  At every press conference, he attempts to divert the attention away from himself individually and insists that everything is a team effort.  That is the result of a very good family and devoted Christian upbringing.

I recently came across a “Facebook” altercation, if you will.  An acquaintance, who is Caucasian (we’ll call him Jonathan), was extremely angered by “yet another Jeremy Lin post” after a friend of mine commented “Asian Pride!!” on a friend’s page after he exulted in another fine performance by JLin on his Facebook status.  Jonathan basically said that we are all wrong for cheering and celebrating the success of Jeremy Lin, that it is actually Jackie Robinson that broke the color barriers back in the 1940’s…and that we should be giving him all the credit.  A very heated argument ensued with multiple people going back and forth, cursing at Jonathan…who basically challenged someone to “say it to his face”.  This is when I chimed in, and basically said the following.

Yes we are Asian men, and yes he makes us proud.  What is wrong with that?  For us to have someone that looks like many of us, representing us as nobody has done in the history of sports.  As long as he is on the Knicks, I will watch every game with popcorn in hand…rooting for every single play that he makes.  I’ve been a Knicks fan for decades…but never with more pride and more reason to root for them.  This is something that you cannot fully understand or be able to empathize with unless you are an Asian man.  And something even Asian women cannot understand.  Right now for us Asian men, he is, on some level, our Jackie Robinson.  I hope that next time I see that person at a happy hour, we can shake hands and we can have a nice laugh over it.

The late, great Whitney Houston sang in her hit “The Greatest Love of All” : ‘Everybody’s searching for a hero…people need someone to look up to…’.  Well, Jeremy Lin is someone that we can all look up to right now.  And for the kids that are looking for a hero/ role model, right now JLin definitely fits the bill.

As much as I don’t really care about how I look, my occupation as a real estate agent does requires me to look presentable. If I’m going to be selling million dollar homes, I have to look like I’m worth a million bucks myself.

Here is an outfit that I think all women should have in their closet, a little black dress and blazer. Pictured here, I’m wearing a grey blazer from G2000 and black dress from Zara. To play up my black dress during the day time, I added a grey blazer and large purse from Staccato to give me that professional and sophisticated look. When I wear dark colors, I like to wear red lipstick to give my face that vibrant and fresh look. To bring my outfit all together, I wore my Calvin Klein ankle beige suede boots (note: I don’t recommend ankle boots if you have big calves because it will only make your legs look chunky. Pumps are the way to go if you want to elongate your legs.) This outfit is the perfect Friday outfit where you can transform from day to night looking polish and chic. All you need is to take off your blazer, bring a smaller purse like my Gucci purse and accessorize it with a pair of sexy earrings and you’ll be on your way to a perfect night out. This outfit is simple yet elegant and sexy.

So what do you think of my outfit? Yay or Nay?

I get it. Jeremy Lin is HOT sh&t right now. He is the man. He is the reason why Asian men are consider DO-ABLE right now. But can we for once stop talking about Jeremy Lin??? This guy is spreading faster than a forest fire.

This is Jeremy Lin Youtube channel when he has lots of time in his hand couple of months ago…. but not anymore. This guy is actually quite funny. Watch his videos and you’ll see.

Another example, last Saturday I was playing charades with my friends. During the game the word “sexing” came up and I asked my 30 year old friend if she wrote that word because I had never heard of it. Instead of just saying no she didn’t write it, she yelled, “NO stupid” and bitch slapped me! Recently, another similar incident took place. A 36 year old friend waited 40 minutes for me because I underestimated the time it would take to food shop for a hotpot we were planning. When I finally showed up, she got really irritated and started to throw a tantrum.

So what do all of these 30+ year old women have in common??? I want to say crazy, but the right description would be SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED. When women are in their 30’s and single, it can be a pretty daunting place. There are a lot of things they have to worry about. The first thing is their biological clock. If they want to reproduce they better do it soon before they hit their 40’s. Studies show it’s harder to for a woman to safely conceive once she hits 40. Second thing is old age and the appearance of wrinkles. The youthful days of smooth skin and a tight body begin to fade and sag. Third, just trying to find a decent, single guy becomes a treasure hunt. Even if you find one, most guys, including ones in their 40s, want women who are in their 20s. Plus, most women reach their sexual peek in their 30s. With all that in mind, it’s no wonder the 30+ year old women are so bitter. Maybe that’s the reason why I’m so bitter. LOL

Ladies, I think I’ve found a short term solution: get some loving once in a while. When you have sex, your body releases endorphins, a natural high that’s bound to make anyone a happy camper. If these women were getting some good loving, I don’t think they would have overreacted the way they did towards me. Their mind would have been preoccupied with the great time they had last night. For those sexless women out there, I think it’s time to let loose and stop being so uptight about every little thing in life. No one wants to be around a cranky, short tempered woman who complains all the time – not even your girl friends. So if you’re looking to get laid, TRY to be nice, stay positive and put a smile on your face, even if it’s fake. Remember, “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.”

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I have always been a fan of Olay. I’ve used their Olay Moisturizer Lotion for many years and never had a problem with it, so I figured I give this Advanced Cleansing System a try. After my first try I was pleasantly surprised that it got rid of the white/black heads on my nose. It REALLY DID!!  Before this product I have yet come across another one that can remove the white and black heads on my nose, not even the Biore nose strips, because my pores are very small and closed up so it makes it difficult to remove them instantly compared to people with open or large pores. The rest of my face feels refreshed and smoother, even though my face was pretty smooth to begin with, but I felt a difference after using it. Two thumbs up for Olay!